Failure. One of the hardest things in life is to know when to keep going and when to move on. Been there. Done that. May many times. But like the old Chinese proverb Fall down seven times, stand up eight.
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I just keep picking myself up and dusting myself off, and trying again. One foot in front of the other. Even if sometimes I am taking one step forward only to take two back. I still keep moving.
Perseverance is key to achieving success in any field. If you can master perseverence when you face moments of doubt you can find the resolve to keep going. Yep, “sticking with it” is perhaps the most important thing to possess.
This being said, on the other side of the coin is telling someone to never give up can be terrible advice. Successful people give up all the time. I mean if something isn’t working, we shouldn’t be repeating it endlessly. We need to take a step back, change directions, revise our system. We need to adjust. And yes, sometimes we need to quit. You know the saying, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
It is important to recognize and adjust to both sides of the coin. They are equally important. So yes, sometimes it is necessary for you to have unwavering confidence and increase your efforts. But sometimes you need to leave the things that aren’t working and start something new. So………how do you know when to give up and when to stick with it?
It all comes down to the three reasons for failure.
Asking yourself these questions can help to clarify where you are going wrong, and how to fix them or move on
- HOW reasons. These happen when you fail to build solid systems, and get lazy with the details. The HOW is a failure to execute on a really good plan with a clear vision.
- WHAT reasons. These happen when you follow a strategy that fails to deliver the results you want. You can know why you do the things you do and you can know how to do the work, but still choose the wrong what to make it happen.
- WHY reasons. These happen when you don’t set a clear direction for yourself, or otherwise fail to understand why you do the things you do.
So, how to fix these issues?
The three primary ways to fix the HOW problem
- Record your process.
- Measure your outcomes.
- Review and adjust your tactics.
Record your process. Whether you’re running a business, parenting a family, or managing your own life, building great systems is crucial for repeated success. It all starts with writing down each specific step of the process and developing a checklist you can follow when life gets crazy.
Measure your outcomes. If something is important to you, measure it. You need to be able to see the results.
Review and adjust . Change direction if you need to. Constantly review your results. What is working? What is not working? Successful people routinely give up on things that don’t move them forward.
The three primary ways to fix the WHAT problem
- Launch it quickly.
- Don’t overspend.
- Revise it often
Launch it quickly. Some ideas work much better than others, but nobody really knows which ideas work until you try them. The quicker you test a strategy, the faster you get feedback , so you know whether or not it works.
Don’t overspend. Failing without spending too much cash increases area for success because it means that you can test more ideas. Additionally, by not spending a lot of money you don’t have an attachment to a particular idea. You know what I mean. If you invest a lot of time and money into something. Well, you don’t want to give it up. Same can be said about bad business ideas, crappy relationships, and destructive habits of all kinds can be hard to let go once they become part of who you are.
Revise it often. All your plans are meant to be revised and adjusted. It would be tough to find a successful business owner, artist, or even a blogger who is doing exactly the same thing today as when they started.
Too many people think if their first idea is a failure, they aren’t cut out for it. Just not true. Change it up. Try something different. Keep going.
If your original idea is a failure and you feel like you’re constantly revising and adjusting, give yourself a break. Changing your strategy is normal. It is literally the way the world works.
The three primary way to fix the WHY problem
- Take a look at your life.
- Decide what must stay or go
- Deal with the nay sayers
Take a look at your life. People rarely take the time to think critically about their vision and values. Of course, there is nothing that says you must to develop a personal vision for your work or your life. Many people prefer to fly by the seat of their pants and just take life as it comes. I have had a lot of clients that live like this. There isn’t anything really wrong with it. But if you are defining your life. There is going to be problems.
As the quote says” If you don’t have a vision for your life, you will end up working on someone elses.
So, let’s look at your life. What do you want to accomplish? How do you want to spend your days? It is not someone else’s job to figure out the vision for your life. That can only be done by you.
What is your “I am not budging” Where aren’t you going to budge? But if you’re going to get obsessed with something, get obsessed with your vision, not your idea.
The key is to realize that nearly everything is a detail—your tactics, your strategy, even your business model. If your “I am not budging” is to be a successful entrepreneur, then there are many ways to achieve that vision.
Once you are firm in your vision. You aren’t going to lose it all at once. There are so few mistakes that lead to the complete destruction of a dream. More likely, you failed at a small piece and felt discouraged. This hurt your confidence and you just gave up not because you should, but because you felt like it. Don’t give up. There are tons ways to achieve your vision if you are willing to be flexible on the details.
Deal with nay sayers. Criticism can be an indicator of failed strategies and tactics, but—it is usually not because of a failed vision. If you are committed to making your vision an amazing thing in your life, and you aren’t going to give up on the first try, or when someone criticizes your idea. You do have to learn how to deal with those who will try and discourage you.
So in closing once you can see where your issues are and how they can be fixed. Keep a look out for them. Why are you having issues? Can it be dealt with by just redirection? Or do you need to rebuild from the ground up?
You probebably aren’t walking the wrong path after all. It’s just that there is so much shit in air, you are having trouble focusing on your vision or path. Figure out the whats hows, and whys——and you’ll find that the vision is often right in front of you.
Hope this helps.
Any questions or comments on how you deal with failure, comment below! I would love to hear from you!!
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